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How Can I Put My Child on a Diet Program Without Making Her Feel Self-Concious?

Question: My daughter is 5 years old and weighs 72 lbs. I dont want her to have a weight problem when she gets older. Is it wrong for me to put her on a diet and excercise program?

Maureen’s Answer:

You asked, “Is it wrong to put her on a diet and exercise program?” I feel the more effective question to ask yourself here is what feels “right” or “wrong” to you. And I‘d like you to consider that question with something very important in mind. On the deepest level there really is no right or wrong, only moving closer to love (feels right!) or further away from love (feels “wrong” – i.e. -unpeaceful, disconnected, empty, or bad). It’s really feeling a lack of love that so often compels people to overeat, in an unconscious effort to fill the void.

So if I am interpreting your real question correctly, you are asking, “How can I best help my daughter to feel, happy, accepted, safe, cared for, and loved?” Well, that doesn’t have to be a some-day-in-the-future experience for her (or you!), and you certainly don’t need to diet your way there! You can offer feelings of deep fulfillment to her right now—or with her next meal.

Share with your daughter the most effective “diet” there is, the only one that can bring the truest, most easily shared and enjoyable experience: “Eat with love, what’s grown with love, prepared with love and served with love.” Simple ’eh? All you have to do is ask yourself, “Is this food a symbol of my love?” If so, offer it joyously.

Do you realize that your daughter sees you as the most amazing, powerful, beautiful being on the planet? Therefore, whatever you see in her, she subconsciously desires to become. To all children, parents are the authority—they feel we know best. What a powerful opportunity that presents for you. See only her perfection, her beauty and—most importantly—her strength and unique individuality, and then just step back and watch! Believe me, you won’t feel fear for her well-being any longer. The only reason any of us parents are ever overly concerned for the well-being of our children is if we mistrust ourselves! While all the while, we hold within us such wisdom—because the gift that comes along with parenthood is the wisdom of love. It sounds to me like you just forgot how to access your own truest mother-lovin’ wisdom for a brief moment in time. (Fear does that to us, by the way.)

There is a way for you to discern whether or not your consideration of putting your daughter on a diet is fear-based or love-based. Here’s how: just sit still for a moment, and completely divorce yourself from the “good” or “bad” opinions of other people. Now, consider the same question you asked me, imagining that you and your daughter exist in a vacuum of sorts—there’s no one else on the planet to judge either one of you. There’s only, you, your daughter and love. Now you tell me, do you need to do anything… let alone put your daughter on a diet!? It’s the fear (most often of both the good or bad opinions of other people) that begets the emptiness that leads to guilt and excess weight. Show her she’s unconditionally loved, just as she already loves you! What beautiful mirrors you’ll be to one another then. Just relax and love yourself for being such a caring, amazing mother who now realizes it’s only the love that fulfills us all—it’s our deepest craving and at the very same time, who we really are! And then just enjoy her—and every meal you have the grace to share together—she’s perfect and so are you!

If you feel it may be healthy for your daughter to spend more time exercising, you can simply encourage her to spend more time outside. Children have a natural curiosity and playfulness, so there’s no need for a “diet or exercise program.” Just find out what sports and games she’s naturally interested in. It could be that a tap dance class, a place on the soccer team, or a friendly game of tag with the neighbors is all your daughter needs to spark a more active lifestyle.

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Done with Dieting: 30 Days of Soul-Full Eating

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Done with Dieting: 30 Days of Soul-Full Eating

When Kate seeks help for her yo-yo dieting and weight gain, she’s looking for more than just another carb counting quick fix. Tired of both herself and an endless parade of nutrition and fitness advice, Kate doubts that any diet can help her overcome her compulsive eating habits to find the perfect weight.

But the seemingly ordinary “life coach” who agrees to take Kate on as a client, has more than Kate’s waistline in mind. This unconventional diet is a complete overhaul of body, mind, and soul, causing Kate to question some of her most cherished beliefs, and let go of past regrets along with mealtime baggage. As Kate’s mentor guides her into unknown territory, they uncover an aspect of eating Kate had long ago forgotten: joy. Throwing all rules and restrictions out the window, Kate is led by one simple principle, “Eat with love what’s grown with love, prepared with love and served with love.”

A warm-hearted and fiercely direct dialogue ensues, as the two women clear Kate’s kitchen, asses her wardrobe and uncover a brilliantly confident woman that Kate never realized was hiding under her own skin.

Join Kate on her journey from “I’m not” to “I am!” by receiving one installment of the story each morning for 30 days, accompanied by daily exercises and meditations to integrate Kate’s discoveries into your own life. Accompanied by Kate, the path to health and radiance has never been more engaging or appealing.

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You may sympathize with Kate if you’ve ever…

  • Quit a diet that you swore you’d stick to, feeling defeated and self-loathing.
  • Triumphantly reached your dieting goals, only to yo-yo back to your original weight, while frantically trying to control your fluctuating waistline.
  • Felt frustrated and confused by the hundreds of diet “plans” and “experts” all with their own, often-contradictory methods of achieving the perfect body.
  • Grown sick of listening to other people tell you how you should eat, exercise and look.

What if you could end all of your struggles with food and stop dieting forever?
You can!

Most traditional diets rely on pre-planned meals, regimented lists of “shoulds” and “shoudln’ts”, and carb, fat and calorie counting—methods which only create more guilt and mealtime stress, and often causing dieters to quit altogether or quickly bounce back to their original weight.

Kate’s Awakening, by contrast, tackles mealtime and dressing room woes at their very source—the deep-rooted feelings of guilt and self-loathing that most of us associate with those experiences—and which keep us from trusting ourselves to decide when, what, and how much we should eat.

Over the course of this 30-Day email program, you’ll learn to trust yourself to make healthy, wholesome decisions about food. You’ll learn how to indulge without guilt, to eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re full, and to eat—and live—in a way that leaves you feeling satisfied, and not aching for more.

Expect your newfound confidence and appreciation to expand into the rest of your daily experience—get ready to love your life!

Click here to read a sample of Done with Dieting

It seems to me that our three basic needs, for food and security and love,
are so entwined that we cannot think of one without the other.
~ M.F.K. Fisher

A Message About Done with Dieting from Maureen:
At first, my motivation to become supremely knowledgeable about nutrition and wellness was entirely self-serving and superficial. As an international model, I wanted to be “picture perfect” and “marketable,” so I could be successful and make a living. But as I watched friends and co-workers turn towards drugs or develop eating disorders, I realized that my interest in full-body wellness and spirituality had helped me not only maintain a desirable physique, but also stay sane in an often crazy and self-destructive industry.

Over the course of a quarter decade, I read literally hundreds of books, attended lectures, workshops and retreats by every known (and unknown) wellness authority of the day. As time passed and I thankfully matured, I realized that there is no “expert” and no one can be anyone else’s “diet authority.”

No matter how learned, how many degrees or titles someone may have after their name, the person who is most expert about you, is you!

In fact, the more I came to know myself, the more evident it became to me how ludicrous it is that any expert should be given the authority to tell me, or any one, what precisely I should eat, at any given time of the day!

I am not here to tell you that this food is good and this food is bad. It’s time to rise above all of that, and allow you to pay attention to your own body and your own needs, to give you the space to decide what is right for you, right now.

Despite a world littered with fast food restaurants and seductive junk food commercials promising ultimate satisfaction there are people who are able to stay thin and healthy and can negotiate their way through the synthetic food jungle every day. And even quite peacefully and consciously indulge from time to time. How?
They are focused on self-love, and have learned what satisfies their own needs, rather than endlessly filling a void and riding the cycle of self-guilt.

Have you ever watched a small child eat? They eat what they want when they want it, and stop as soon as they are full. They never binge or intentionally starve themselves, or feel guilt for not eating the “right” amounts of the “right” foods.

That is, until the child begins school, where there are allotted times for eating, and using the bathroom, and playing, and paying attention. At dinnertime, adults tell her that she has to either finish everything on her plate or stop eating so much of certain foods. As the child grows older, she loses touch with what her body needs, instead relying on experts to tell her what will make her feel and look “perfect.” She might overindulge to ease emotional pain, or restrict herself to feel more in control of her life and image. Soon, mealtime becomes a complicated mess of “shoulds,” “don’ts” and “wants.” Wouldn’t it be nice to return to those childhood eating habits, when you just ate whatever you liked, whenever you felt hungry, with no guilt?

In this 30-day “non-diet” program, you’ll purge yourself of mealtime baggage, and learn to trust yourself to make healthy, wholesome decisions about food. You’ll learn how to indulge without guilt, to eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re full, and to eat—and live—in a way that leaves you feeling satisfied, and not aching for more.

Every human has two things in common,
1. We all Eat.
2. We all feel a certain, albeit often undeniable pang of emptiness that whispers, “there must be something more than this.”

Sure we can quiet that voice, from time to time, just like our body’s hunger for food, making it subside by burying it under layers of material consumption. But the only time that any of us are ever truly, deeply full, contented and satisfied is when we feel deeply loved.

That void is the voice of your Soul calling you to live your own life fully and freely, led by a deeply fulfilling interior motivation that is aligned with self-love and awareness. A life guided by, infused with, and impassioned by love.

Wouldn’t you much rather learn to love yourself than temporarily trim your waistline by mastering another diet, only to find yourself yo-yo right back to where you were before you started it?

Welcome to the Done with Dieting Program

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Soul-Full Eating Workshop, Nov. 17, 2007

Soul-FUll EatingYOU ARE INVITED…

Just in time for the holiday season, when friends and families the world over gather together to celebrate spirit by sharing food…

Come enjoy a life-changing experience, as you learn how to:
Eat Your Way to Enlightenment (more…)

Article: Is There a Link Between Stress and Bad Belly Fat?

The Doctor Weighs In: Is There a Link Between Stress and Bad Belly Fat?, Article by Dr. Pat Sylber – January 22, 2007

We have known for a long time that the distribution of fat in the body is important in determining important health risks, such as type 2 diabetes and cardiovascular disease. “Apples” (or the abdominally obese) are at much greater risk than pear-shaped people who tend to deposit their fat in the hips, thighs and butts. (more…)

Book Review: The Doctor Weighs In. Getting in touch with your feelings… about raisins

Getting in Touch With Your Feelings… About Raisins

A friend put me in touch with Maureen Whitehouse, a former model and now author of a new book, Soul-Full Eating. Maureen sent me a copy of her book to review.  Now, it is a pretty book with a serenely beautiful cover photo it’s a lettuce leaf (I think) and something that looks like a animal bone stuck in something that could be some sort of fruit. It is all a little blurry and abstract. But it does remind me of the decor of some of the nicer high-end spas I have frequented.

The subtitle of the book is ” A (Delicious!) Path to Higher Conscious.” Oh, oh, I’m thinking, this may be a little too zen for me. I practice yoga because it is a great exercise and my main stretching activity. But I have never really been the meditating sort. I avoid the silent dinners at my annual visit at Rancho La Puerta, not being able to imagine how someone could pass up the chance to blab with the terrifically interesting people who attend that spa. (more…)

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