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Soul-Full Eating Recipe Center: Share Your Own and Find New Favorites

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Share the Love!

Do you have a favorite recipe that symbolizes love to you? Share it with our visitors and you just may find your recipe/story in an upcoming issue of Soul-Full Eating Magazine or in the upcoming Soul-Full Eating recipe book.

Here’s the idea… give us your recipe along with a short story or explanation illustrating why it represents any, or all, elements of our Soul-Full Eating axiom: Eat with love, what’s grown with love, prepared with love and served with love. (more…)

Got Resolutions? Talk at Unity Church, Cambridge

Got Resolutions?

New Year’s is the only holiday that celebrates the passage of time. Perhaps that’s why, as the final seconds of the year tick away, we become introspective. Inevitably, that introspection turns to thoughts of self-improvement and the annual ritual of making resolutions, which offer the first of many important tools for remaking ourselves!”

– Gary Ryan Blair

Are you considering “re-making” yourself in 2010?  Who do you want to become this year? What kind of a life do you envision for yourself?

Will you join the millions upon millions of people world-wide who declare their intentions to “change” but then as the days, weeks and months pass and their resolve wanes, see their top-of-the-mountain intentions flatten? For many, as the bright light at the end of the “some day I’ll attain that” tunnel dims, it’s easy to feel self-loathing and defeat.

This January, you could join this universal trend and, as many experts advise, make firm resolutions, set challenging goals, and develop detailed action plans that promise to enable and empower you to have the best year of you life.

Or… you could experience something entirely new.

Come join Maureen Whitehouse and the Unity of Cambridge congregation as we herald in the New Year celebrating the beginning of a Miraculous (and entirely resolution free) year… Manifesting Your Best Year Ever!

Service will be held on Sunday, December 27th in the auditorium of the Morse School, 40 Granite Street, Cambridge, MA 02139   map.

Services start at 11:00 AM, with a meditation period from 10:30 to 10:50 AM.

Followed by an Afternoon Workshop led by Maureen from 12:30 to 2:30 PM

Maureen Whitehouse is the award-winning, best-selling author of Soul-Full Eating: A (Delicious!) Path to Higher Consciousness and the highly acclaimed, new release Done with Dieting: 30 Days of Soul-Full Eating. She is a much loved, inspiring and knowledgeable teacher and expert in Personal Development and Self-Realization. She has inspired and helped thousands of people to make meaningful and lasting changes in their lives.

The MorningCoach.com Daily Podcast Introduces Maureen Whitehouse and Soul-Full Eating

Maureen joins JB Glossinger on his daily podcast on MorningCoach.com

JB welcomes Maureen to the Morning Coach community, while Maureen shares the Soul-Full Eating path and her newest program, Done with Dieting.
Plus, a Valentine’s Day Special: How to Be In Love All of The Time & Conscious Couples.

How Can I Put My Child on a Diet Program Without Making Her Feel Self-Concious?

Question: My daughter is 5 years old and weighs 72 lbs. I dont want her to have a weight problem when she gets older. Is it wrong for me to put her on a diet and excercise program?

Maureen’s Answer:

You asked, “Is it wrong to put her on a diet and exercise program?” I feel the more effective question to ask yourself here is what feels “right” or “wrong” to you. And I‘d like you to consider that question with something very important in mind. On the deepest level there really is no right or wrong, only moving closer to love (feels right!) or further away from love (feels “wrong” – i.e. -unpeaceful, disconnected, empty, or bad). It’s really feeling a lack of love that so often compels people to overeat, in an unconscious effort to fill the void.

So if I am interpreting your real question correctly, you are asking, “How can I best help my daughter to feel, happy, accepted, safe, cared for, and loved?” Well, that doesn’t have to be a some-day-in-the-future experience for her (or you!), and you certainly don’t need to diet your way there! You can offer feelings of deep fulfillment to her right now—or with her next meal.

Share with your daughter the most effective “diet” there is, the only one that can bring the truest, most easily shared and enjoyable experience: “Eat with love, what’s grown with love, prepared with love and served with love.” Simple ’eh? All you have to do is ask yourself, “Is this food a symbol of my love?” If so, offer it joyously.

Do you realize that your daughter sees you as the most amazing, powerful, beautiful being on the planet? Therefore, whatever you see in her, she subconsciously desires to become. To all children, parents are the authority—they feel we know best. What a powerful opportunity that presents for you. See only her perfection, her beauty and—most importantly—her strength and unique individuality, and then just step back and watch! Believe me, you won’t feel fear for her well-being any longer. The only reason any of us parents are ever overly concerned for the well-being of our children is if we mistrust ourselves! While all the while, we hold within us such wisdom—because the gift that comes along with parenthood is the wisdom of love. It sounds to me like you just forgot how to access your own truest mother-lovin’ wisdom for a brief moment in time. (Fear does that to us, by the way.)

There is a way for you to discern whether or not your consideration of putting your daughter on a diet is fear-based or love-based. Here’s how: just sit still for a moment, and completely divorce yourself from the “good” or “bad” opinions of other people. Now, consider the same question you asked me, imagining that you and your daughter exist in a vacuum of sorts—there’s no one else on the planet to judge either one of you. There’s only, you, your daughter and love. Now you tell me, do you need to do anything… let alone put your daughter on a diet!? It’s the fear (most often of both the good or bad opinions of other people) that begets the emptiness that leads to guilt and excess weight. Show her she’s unconditionally loved, just as she already loves you! What beautiful mirrors you’ll be to one another then. Just relax and love yourself for being such a caring, amazing mother who now realizes it’s only the love that fulfills us all—it’s our deepest craving and at the very same time, who we really are! And then just enjoy her—and every meal you have the grace to share together—she’s perfect and so are you!

If you feel it may be healthy for your daughter to spend more time exercising, you can simply encourage her to spend more time outside. Children have a natural curiosity and playfulness, so there’s no need for a “diet or exercise program.” Just find out what sports and games she’s naturally interested in. It could be that a tap dance class, a place on the soccer team, or a friendly game of tag with the neighbors is all your daughter needs to spark a more active lifestyle.

For more from Soul-Full Eating: A (Delicious!) Path to Higher Consciousness visit eatwithsoul.com

Should I Make My Daughter Finish All of the Food on Her Plate?

Question: My two-year-old daughter often sits with us at the table and eats—usually. My question is, should I have her eat if she doesn’t want to? Should I force her to try new foods? Should I make her sit there until her plate is clean or until she’s eaten two bites of peas? If she asks to leave the table before her father and I are finished eating, do I let her?

Maureen‘s Answer:

As you may know, the theme of Soul-Full Eating is: “Eat with love, what’s grown with love, prepared with love and served with love.”

I feel that across the board, this simple statement is the answer to all kinds of struggles that adults have with food. But it’s important that as adults we ask ourselves, when do most food struggles begin? The answer is often in childhood. Many of us grew up in households where it was expected that we “clean our plates” before we could be excused from the table. Let’s get more specific to your questions now… to an inquisitive, on-the-go two-year-old this can be a torturous experience. Often, before the adults at the dining table have finished two mouthfuls of their food, a two year old will declare, “I’m done.” That’s because they’re genuinely satiated with one or two bites themselves and are now ready to move on to “more interesting things.”

So I’d like you to ask yourself, if you’re asking an “expert” how to feed your own child… maybe at some point you were led to believe that other people’s opinions and feelings are more valid and important than your own. The only question I believe you need to ask here—to yourself!—is, “what feels most loving to me now?” How can you best show my daughter that she is completely loved—even at the dinner table?

By the way, my sister-in-law still speaks about how traumatized she was by having to sit at the dining room table long after every one of her siblings was excused, until she ate those last three cold and wilting peas. As she relates it, as a child she rebelled and tried to assert her autonomy for hours and hours saying, “I don’t like peas!.” Unfortunately she’d eventually break and eat them—her dad was a military Colonel at the time, so he knew how to win a battle! But, at what cost?

We never crave food as much as we crave love. And you can teach your children self-love via eating food. Yes! Offer them good, wholesome, healthy choices—plenty of them—this will spark their creativity and feelings of empowerment as they can make their own choices and feel your love as they do so.

If you find that, as an adult, you are unsure if you are in a battle with food yourself, here’s an excerpted exercise from Soul-Full Eating, that’s often very revelatory for my readers. Try it and let me know what you find out. And remember, it’s through conscious parenting that we often discover the spontaneous, joyous, oh-so-loveable “lost child” in ourselves.

SOMETHING TO CHEW ON
Spend five minutes meditating on or writing about the following questions: When you were young, were you given praise for finishing every last bite on your plate? Were you ever coerced into eating even after you felt full by being told about the starving children in other parts of the world or about how others suffered and sacrificed to provide you with your meal?

If so, then it’s likely that guilt has been coloring your world when it comes to eating—guilt for not eating enough, or guilt for eating too much. We are all born with an internal comfort-seeking mechanism—the Soul—The “Voice” of sanity. However, for many of us, it’s been layered over, smothered and silenced by the guilt inherent in our fear-based conditioning.

SOUL-FULL EXERCISE #1
Just for one day, do only what you genuinely love to do. Can you do that? Lucky you, if you don’t have to put a hold on everything and completely rearrange your entire life to do this. That means you are already being True to your Soul!
But if you do have to do a bit of finagling of time and space in order to allow your authentic-self to emerge, that’s still fine. Why? Because now you can see that you really do deserve to love yourself more. Once you do this once, there may be no turning back!
Eating what you really don’t love, without love, is just one small symptom of a greater picture of denying your brilliance and self-worth.

My Sister Gives Her New Boyfriend More Attention Than Her Kids.

Question: My nieces are 16, 14 and 5 years of age and their mother—my sister—has recently started dating a new guy. Since she met him, she has payed less and less attention to the girls. Naturally, they feel neglected and the oldest one got into an argument with her mom that was so bad that she recently told me and her grandmother—who also lives with them—that she was considering moving out. Right now it seems like my sister’s first priority is her new boyfriend. I want to show my nieces that my husband and I are there for them, but how do I do that without showing them more negativity about their mom? Also my sister is very unfair with my mom, treating her like a maid and is very unappreciative. Should I mention something to her or leave it alone?

Maureen’s Answer:

Here’s my personal philosophy: If you can’t say something supportive and helpful to someone, it’s best to say nothing at all.

Instead, realize that just being an example of what you’d like them to become will impact the situation for the better. In this case, it sounds as if all you really want for your family is to feel peaceful, loved and respected. That’s a very good intention, but getting into other people’s business is often the least effective way to accomplish such results.

Instead—since what you focus on, you’ll get more of—if you see your sister as “the insensitive culprit,” don’t be surprised if she exhibits behaviors that personify exactly that. Whereas, if you start by seeing everyone as doing the best they can at this time and respect them for that, you’ll approach the situation from an entirely different perspective—one that is typically more loving, less judgmental and one that can also have an impact for the better much more quickly. Obviously, what your sister really wants is love and if the only place she feels like she can get that at the moment is from her boyfriend, well then of course she’ll want to spend most of her time with him.

Here’s something powerful that you can share with your nieces. Maybe they don’t approve of their mother’s choices and decisions and yet feel that they are affected by them directly or indirectly. Instead of feeling victim to the situation, they can become victors over it by choosing to give what it is they most want to get… in this case it’s the love and caring attention of their mother. But truly, that brand of love—love that comes from someone else—is never, ever reliable, even from a mother, as you’ve so wonderfully illustrated with your question!

In this world filled with people living in separate bodies, driven by different likes, dislikes and intentions, we cannot expect for anyone else to truly make us live “happily ever after.” Situations and circumstances are always changing as are people evolving, growing and learning via the lives they live. We can’t expect anyone to put their life on hold for us—which is what so many mothers feel that they do for their children only to feel then that their children owe them something for that in return. They don’t! If you choose to sacrifice anything for another person, be prepared to realize that it is never loving. We can only receive perfect and undying love from ourselves! How do we know if we’ve actually succeeded in tapping that kind of love? We don’t need others to do anything for us in order for us to love them… we just love them because that’s what feels best to us! No matter how they are acting towards us, anyone else or themselves. Only that is true love.

Wouldn’t you rather your nieces master a lesson in true love early on and go on to be powerful, amazing self-reliant women in all of their relationships? Rather than make them victim to judgments about their mother, which will only serve to disempower them and lose sight of the love that they innately know and feel for her. Show them real, true undying love now, by asking them to join with you in accepting their mom just as she is and allowing for her to make mistakes as she must. And by the way, if your sister doesn’t feel judged, she’ll walk through situations that aren’t truly led by love—but fear—much more quickly.

For years, I worked with teens in the public school system, who came from “dysfunctional homes.” The members of these families were all craving love, yet no one really understood how to remove the obstacles to love’s presence. Instead they were all in denial, thinking they could live without sharing the very thing they all wanted to experience most. From my own personal experience, I knew that only one person in a family is needed to change everything. How? By deciding to love everyone just the way they are. That doesn’t mean you’ll be stuck with a situation you don’t like—that’s the power of love—once you accept people/things just as they are—they can change!

Source: Parental Wisdom Advisor Maureen Whitehouse

Health, Wellness and Attaining an Ideal Weight

Soul-Full Eating: A (Delicious!) Path to Higher Consciousness

Are you a war veteran of what seems to be a constant battle with your weight? Or are you just interested in attaining superior health and wellness, inner and outer balance and a greater sense of self worth and personal radiance?

There are scores of diets out there… and although these diet plans may be well intentioned, most people find the many conflicting approaches to diet confusing at best. How would you like to give up the confusion for good, gain greater self awareness and spiritual healing… along with dropped pounds!

The one key ingredient that most diet plans are missing is: LOVE!

Soul-Full Eating is for you:

  • If you would like to experience effortless weight loss (or weight gain) along with an overall sense of health and wellness
  • If you are sick and tired (literally!) of following fad diets and the diet trend of the day…the high protein diet, low fat diet, South Beach Diet, Atkins Diet, The Zone Diet, Fat Smash Diet, low carb diet, diet pills… the list is endless.
  • You’ve found yourself faced with food obsession and compulsive eating disorders such as binge eating, anorexia, bulimia, emotional over eating, fast food addiction and even depression and would like to banish food concerns and food addictions for good.
  • You crave a healthy lifestyle, greater balance, self-love, and connectivity and desire to live a life where healthy eating and healthy foods are just as natural to you as breathing.
  • You are ready to attain your ideal weight, experience vibrant health, have a trim, healthy, radiant physique and step onto a fulfilling, spiritually connective path that is not only delightful but fun but delicious!

Join us on this delicious and soul-satisfying path. It is more than possible to attain your ideal weight via consciousness!

Lose Weight – Gain Spirit!

Soul-Full Eating is congruent and fully compatible to weight loss programs that promote greater self awareness such as Weight Watchers and Overeaters Anonymous.

Maureen also speaks on a variety of other important and inspiring Soul-Full topics. Click here if you would like to see what other subjects you can bring Maureen in to present to your company, group or organization.

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